Today I deal with life decisions. I stumbled upon things that I hadn’t budgeted. I stumbled upon things that I hadn’t foreseen. Did I throw myself on the grown and have a tantrum? No, but I wanted to for a brief moment. I did ponder upon why we plan? Why we have goals? Why do we do things the way we do? Life continuously throws us curve balls. It isn’t what happens and when. It’s how we handle it when it happens. Life is about constant change. If we stayed the same day in and day out how boring would that be??
A lady at work that is normally overly bubbly (in my opinion) and full of pep in her step, came in really somber and full of gloom and doom. I didn’t know what was wrong, but I definitely noticed. I stopped and asked her what was wrong and boy was I not prepared for what she unleashed on me. I was thankful that I stopped and asked because she later thanked me for taking the time to stop and chat. We found out that we had a lot in common and that it helped one another to know that we share commonalities.
It is so reassuring when you find out that someone knows and understands your plight. When you find out that you’re not alone in your madness it’s very comforting. I didn’t feel that I was better than she or she than me, just a mutual understanding. By sharing with her I finally felt that it isn’t bad to be so sharing and giving of your experience and your history. We sometimes feel so ashamed that we’ve been divorced, or you’re not so strong in a certain area, or you’ve had this or that problem previously or currently. We learn by sharing and caring for others. Don’t be afraid to live your life the way you do, because you will never know who hears your story and learns from you or you from them.
Today I read a story about a man that found out he had cancer the same week that his son had died. He didn’t know that his son had died because his family felt that he was in no condition to hear the horrible news, but at the same time in his condition, he felt that his wife was not ready to learn about his condition. How many would put themselves aside, finding out the news about ourselves to still protect their own family??? It’s a sad story, but at the same time, it’s a great story. You never know what someone is going threw. This family was protecting each other from something devastating, understanding without communicating that the other wasn’t ready for the news. That’s love. That’s being in tuned and caring.
I realized even more today that the stuff that I sweat is so ridiculous compared to what could be going on. There’s no way we’ll know what’s up ahead until it happens. Things can always be worse than it is. I lost something important to me this week and I refused to get mad about it because it’s something I could replace. It’s just a thing.
A life is irreplacable! Live it until you can’t live it anymore.
