We’ve all been there. The warning before the storm. You meet someone, you tell your girlfriend she gives dude a big thumbs down. You take him to meet the fam, and they all can’t stand his azz either. But you don’t see it. They’re all haters. Your girlfriend’s just jealous. Right?
I was thinking the other day, that I should learn how to learn from other people’s experiences, instead of experiencing the lesson first hand. I realized that, when you want some thing bad enough, you can convince yourself that it’s going to work for you. That you’re different then the other 100,000 people who experienced this before you. That times are different now. We’re in the year 2008 how can they possible know what they’re talking about?
I’ve made some dumb ass mistakes in my day. From flying to Hawaii for 7 days w/little to no money. Dating an older man when I was 14. To my marriages and so on and so forth.
I want to remember this when I’m trying to guard my children from making stupid mistakes. To error is human, but if you have some people that are older, wiser-No I won’t even say wiser. (Cause you can learn a lot from a dummy)- and a true friend/relative that is willing to share, give it to you straight and give you a different perspective, try to take heed.
I look back on a lot of things and wish that people would have told me this or that. In their round about way, some people did try to stop me. And then of course I tried to say well why didn’t they just give it to me straight. I would have had an answer for everything because I wanted to hear what I heard and didn’t hear everything I should have.
Hind sight is 20/20, but learning from other people’s experiences is like 40/40.
Sometimes, I mean, you have to try and see. But stupid is just stupid, no matter how you slice it. And somethings you’re just not going to understand until you go thru it. For example: If someone says birth hurts like hell, your idea of hell might not be that bad. You might say, I have a high tolerance for pain. But baby, ’til you are actually in there and you have a watermelon sized head squeezin’ thru your hoo-ha and your epidural done wore off, you don’t know pain, like I know pain. Or when someone says don’t scratch your head before a relaxer and you forget and scratch anyway, well then, burn baby burn… But you get my drift.
There are some cases where you’re going to feel like, if I don’t do whatever it is you’re plotting on, then you’re going to wonder for the rest of your life, I’d suggest going by this rule of them. If it only affects you and no body else, not your kids, not your family, not anybody else’s money or time. If you do this and it doesn’t interrupt any one else’s day to day, and you have to try and see, go for it. But if you are going to get caught, possible hurt, kidnapped, stranded, lost, want to come back sooner and you need a plane ticket, need to call some one collect, need to borrow five dollars, lost your luggage and need some drawls, don’t do it!!!!
